It has really been a great while since I shared a little about me. So I decided to share a little about my typical homeschool day. A day that can sometimes be great, or really bad.
In our home, we believe in structure and discipline. So when my husband or I tell our child to do something, we expect them to do as they are told. Immediately without question, and with a good attitude. We also expect it to be done well. So now let’s be honest, I am talking about children. So, we both know that doesn’t always happen. We need to be real. I mean, hey, I don’t want to fix the kids a snack sometimes. After all I just finished cleaning the kitchen. I don’t want to make a mess again! But my kids expect me to do it with a happy attitude. So I have show an example to my kids, because they will mirror me and my attitude.
So why am I sharing all this, well, it’s because we all have limits. We all know about expectations and we all know what kind of work, self-control, understanding, and time comes with homeschooling. Now, I love homeschooling my kids, but we all have moments. I know for a fact I am not alone. I have heard my friends talk about their yelling moments that they are not proud of. And frankly, neither am I with mine. I don’t like to get angry and lose control. But honestly, I do, I turn into a Godzilla mama, stomping through the house because my kids just won’t sit and get their seatwork done!!! Or clean up their toys because I have asked them for the 6th time today. Because I want to move on and do something else!!!! I would like to do more fun activities like, sewing, painting, cooking, etc.
So, I hate to admit it, but my kids sort of freak out, and sit down and diligently do their work, quickly, might I add. Now, I am not proud of my explosion. I feel guilty. I feel horrible. I have failed to be a good example. So what if my kids finished their work. I have failed to show proper self-control. Now I have to sit my kids down and apologize, admit that I was wrong and tell them how I should have behaved, and wouldn’t that have been better. I of course get the unanimous, “yes!”
My kids accept my apology and we all move on. But the reality is. This has turned into a cycle. Certainly not every day, but often enough. So what can I do to keep this from happening. Well, I restructured my daily schedule to allow more breaks. This helped alot. But, the best part, is what what a fellow homeschool mom shared with me. It was her “Over Time” or “Do Over” plan that just won me over. It has worked wonders with my kids so far.
So here’s what it is, your child should be able to finish a subject in a certain amount of time. Sometimes they just don’t feel like doing it and if you allow it they will sit there for a couple hours and not complete their work. This bugs me to no end. Because it puts my whole day behind. Well, with this “Over Time”, (which is what I call it in my home). Has got them a little more focused on what needs to be done. So for example, let’s say my oldest needs 20 minutes to finish English, and she just doesn’t feel like doing it. Okay, Let’s put it aside for you to do with daddy when he gets home. You can finish it with him. Now let’s move on to spelling or phonics, or even reading. You know how long it should take your child to finish any given subject. Just give them that time limit. If they decide to goof off, okay, “Over Time”. So far it has been great! My kids just want to play with daddy, so when they see I am serious, and follow through with what I say. They immediately shape up. Sometimes they know we have a busy Friday night, and they think they can get out of it. Well, it becomes weekend work with daddy. I have things I would like to do outside of seatwork and I am sure you do too.
So anyhow, I wanted to share my friend’s idea, and encourage you to give it a try. If you are anything like me you will welcome the change.
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6